And sometimes you surprise yourself and end up being attracted to someone you never thought you would be because they're not traditionally your “type." My white friend who is married to a black man said, “it's just him I fell in love with. " There's this stereotype that white women who date black guys are trying to “show off" or to make white men jealous of black men. Plus, all the males in my family are white and I have nothing but respect for them, so how can I think I'm better than them?The same goes for black men; their mothers and sisters are black, so they shouldn't think they are above black women by dating white women.I've always been a "Daddy's Girl" and I would never intentionally date a specific race in an attempt to “lash out" at either of my parents.While it's true that a woman is more likely to date and marry someone who looks similar to her father, it's also true that she'll choose a life partner who shares the same qualities as her father.Dating outside of my race has opened my eyes to how much work we still have to do as a society to combat racism, both blatant and masked.Jesse Williams and the #Woke Bae collective: it’s high time that we have a talk.These are just some observations I've made and they obviously do not apply to every interracial dating situation.
Of course, it's possible that a white woman had a traumatic experience with a white man, which makes her look to other races for love and stability in a relationship; but, this is not always the case.
This doesn't mean that white girls who date black guys think that they're above black women.
This is not to say that white privilege doesn't exist, it just means that white women don't think they can automatically get a black guy just by virtue of being white.
Just because society has identified whiteness as some sort of marker of success doesn't mean that white women view themselves as an “upgrade" for black men.
No, we are not all just trying to see if the rumors about black men are true; there are websites for that.